The Woman Who Rises After Abandonment THE WOMAN WHO RISES AFTER ABANDONMENT

There are wounds that bruise the body, and there are wounds that bruise the soul. Abandonment is both. It is the ache of becoming invisible in the moment you most needed to be seen. It is the coldness left behind when someone who promised presence turns into emptiness. It is a wound that echoes through lifetimes.

But abandonment, too, is an initiation into unseen power.Every lineage of feminine awakening contains a moment where the heroine is left alone; left by a lover, a parent, a family, a friend, even by God as she once understood the Divine. What looks like rejection is often the threshold of remembrance. Abandonment pulls a woman back into herself. It strips away dependence. It reveals where she has abandoned herself again and again while waiting for others to choose her.

There is a silence inside the abandoned woman that few ever truly hear; the silence of someone who has been unseen for far too long. She carries the echo of promises that dissolved in her hands, the ghost-touch of intimacy withdrawn too suddenly and shockingly, the shattering of trust she had once offered so earnestly. And yet, within that silence, something ancient begins to stir. A woman who has been abandoned learns, slowly and painfully, to hear her own heartbeat again. She remembers the voice that was hers before anyone else ever spoke over her. She discovers that the one who left was never the axis of her world : she was. Her grief becomes an initiation. Her loneliness becomes a lantern. And the very wound that broke her becomes the doorway through which her deeper self steps forward; wiser, wilder, sovereign, and unwilling to ever again shrink herself for someone who cannot meet her.

She has the space and time to recall all moments in her childhood and life where she abandoned herself to please another , to win the affections of another. Over and over she tries to gain the love she seeks , unknowing that it always lived deep within her womb,and that the love she longed for was hers.

The woman who rises after abandonment she rises from the ashes of loneliness. Loneliness is the alchemical element that allows a woman to becomes the woman who learns to hold herself the way no one else ever did. She becomes the woman who no longer chases, no longer begs, no longer bargains. She becomes the woman who stands in the fullness of her own presence; unavailable to anything that feels like absence.

She is so anchored in her own worth that she will never again turn away from herself; and in this new devotion, abandonment finds no doorway into her life.

Collette